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Parents and Families

Adjusting to College: Parent & Family Tips

Common Questions Related to Counseling

How can I help my student access services at the Counseling Center?
Begin by being open with your child about your own feelings. This includes encouraging your child to share her or his feelings with you as well. Validate their thoughts and emotions and offer yourself as a resource. Be prepared to talk to them about contacting the Pace Counseling Center and other resources to help your student cope.

Is counseling only useful for those with serious and long term emotional problems?
Counseling can be for anyone who feels they need it, particularly for people feeling that they just need someone to talk to, students having relationship or academic difficulties, students struggling with a parent or other loved ones, or for anyone who just feels stressed.

Do counselors give advice and provide solutions for students?
Counselors work to help students understand and begin to cope with their struggles on their own terms and in a way that works best for them. Counseling supports students as they learn to problem-solve and as they gain confidence in making important decisions.

Will counselors have difficulty understanding or relating to my student’s problems because of culture, religion, sexual identity, or race?
The Pace Counseling Center is committed to understanding each client as a unique individual and aspects of personal identity, spirituality, family culture, and ethnic heritage are all respected in the counseling relationship.

Counselors don’t care; aren’t they just doing a job?
Each student matters. As counselors, our concern is with your student’s emotional and wellness needs. In addition to providing counseling services, the Counseling Center staff frequently interacts with the Pace community by offering educational and interactive presentations on a variety of emotional and physical wellness topics.

Who will know my student is seeking a counselor?
Confidentiality is required by law and is a major priority at our counseling center. All counseling center staff are dedicated to ensuring the security and anonymity of all student records, information, and visits. Any sharing of information outside of the counseling center is only done with the specific written consent of the student receiving counseling with us, even for parents. Counseling records are not kept as a part of a student’s educational record.

Depression, Alcohol, and Other Drugs

Depression is a condition that affects people of all ages,races,genders,and sexual orientations. When talking to your student, you might notice significant changes in their sleeping, eating, mood, or socializing.

Symptoms can take the form of an inability to concentrate or pay attention, decreased care about things that were once interesting, or getting involved in any types of risky or dangerous behavior. Your student might also experience depression in many different ways depending upon their culture or ethnicity. As a parent or guardian, you will look for, and talk about, depression in a way that is meaningful for you.

Inquire about their feelings by: planning a specific time to talk; meeting alone and in private; making sure there is plenty of time for a long conversation if you need one.

Encourage your student to get help by listening and not lecturing; not judging what they are saying or experiencing; focus on solutions and resources; and offer hope.

Refer your student to the Pace Counseling Center. This is most effective when you are personally involved during the referral process.

Talk to your student if you are aware or concerned about their use of illegal drugs, abuse of prescription medications, or engagement in potentially harmful behaviors associated with the use of drugs or alcohol. Topics such as underage drinking, driving while intoxicated, and the potential for addiction should be addressed.

The Pace Counseling Center offers services such as one-on-one counseling and referral to specialized treatment centers.